So what about the house buying? Well - PWR and I made an offer for the nice house, but the vendors laughed in the face of our cheek! It was a sign of our ambivalence that we felt okay about having the offer rejected. Isn't buying a house a big thing to do? How can one possibly make such a big decision based on just one or two visits?
The sensible way to know whether a house is right for you would be to borrow it for a week, move in with essentials (like a holday home), then try it out for size and suitablity. Then in the week, you could go round and chat to the neighbours, see how the sun falls on the house through the day, assess traffic noises at all hours, see how drafty it is, and experience the journey to work. But as PWR keeps telling me, there is no such thing as a perfect house.
How do people make these big decisions? P and I wake up each morning and say - well - are you running hot or cold on the house today? And we both go up and down.
Do we need a bigger house? I think so. But, with a small house, we are freer. We could, if we wished, have a house and a narrow boat of our own. Or a house and a more reliable camper-van. But with a bigger house I could have more that 2 people round for a meal, and I could hang more pictures. Oh well, we'll see.
What you should do is toss a coin. But the trick is to make a decision beforehand about what is heads and what is tails. So..say 'moving' is heads and 'staying' is tails. Then toss the coin, look at how it lands and take notice of your very first reaction. If its heads, and your first reaction is 'Oh No', stay.
ReplyDeleteIn order to do that I'll have to have an actual desirable house to have on one side of the coin, not just a tenuous (sp?) 'shall I move?' question. Okay - will take your expert psychology advice on board and let you know if and when it is used.
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